“Being wired for Gratitude can really change your life”

If one thing can make you feel more happy, it is the feeling of having gratitude.
It leads to satisfaction, peace of mind and unbelievable amount of joy! In this times of Global stress it is so important to wire yourself for gratitude.
Here is an article on the 10 things which I feel grateful for and I read it whenever I feel dissatisfaction or stress.

I had written down this gratitude journal in December, the situation was different then today.
But isn’t it a good time to train and remodel over thinking patterns and experience internal freedom?

Gratitude Mantra 1:

“Gratitude Towards Freedom”

“Life without liberty is like a body without a soul”~ Khalil Gibran

Since a young age I saw that when I feel free, I perform at my very best but the society has a setup which could make you captivated, very young in my life I was terribly scared of losing my freedom, being a women in the Indian society , being a housewife , being in a 9-5 job in which I couldn’t be creative was really terrible for me.
My Grandmother was the first one who said to me - you can be happy alone, you should have a career, you should be a Doctor all her words came true in my life. It was amazing to see for a woman to be born in 1927 in India has such thoughts. She was a housewife but she had great vision for all of us. She used to say "In old times -I did not have an opportunity to be free, they didn’t send us to school, but you have all the possibilities in this world, study well."
My gratitude is towards all the freedom I have in my life to explore and experience it.
Freedom for me means the ability to be independent, take my own decisions, to choose my own directions and radiate peace and happiness.
Never the sentence- I have to
But the sentence I would love to
What does freedom mean to you?



Gratitude Mantra 2:

“Gratitude Towards Learning”

By learning from what we are, experiencing positive and negative we can constantly release our past and then learn something.
I remember saying to my mom years before now the new version of Shivani is out with better speed and processing and she laughed at it. I also used words like I deleted this from my hardware after learning what I learned from it.
Many of the patients I saw learned more and kept all the old in and then came to me telling they cannot solve their problems in spite of their learning but the key is to unlearn the old.
Each time I acted inappropriately, I studied it and promised myself to learn new ways to deal with it. Judging myself for my mistakes didn’t help me in any way neither did criticizing.
Learning about my strengths and studying the method of why and how I failed in personal and professional targets helped me to declutter.
I learned NLP, Nutrition psychology all with the intention of helping people yet bringing all to my original work of developing the Ayurvedic system of consultation.
I keep learning new things, one by one and deeply so that I get the right learning from it. May I be a learner till the end days of my life and I am so grateful for this attitude to learning. Do you love to learn?
Are you paying attention to what your achievements and conflicts are teaching you?



Gratitude Mantra 3:

“Gratitude Towards the Oneness”

We all are humans, all need love and care, all need healthy food, all need to learn from life, the similarities made my world easier.
I was born in the Andaman Island which consists of people of various states & religion, moreover, I myself have a mixed Indian origin, my dad is from the north and my mom from the Andaman down south from a island. In Andaman, we had interstate marriages from the beginning so she is a mix of cultures a lot of states. So, from the beginning, I saw less differences amongst people, in fact, I embraced the similarities.
For the sake of learning about various countries culture families I travelled 18 times to Europe and once to The States and this helps me do my consultations in a much better form as I had the experience of how life is in other countries.
For this learning experience while I visited the countries I lived with the locals, saw how couples are, how parenting is. All broadened my view of seeing life. I remember when I was in Berlin for the first time and we met a friend, he introduced his wife: This is my women, I really opened my eyes wide, how can u say to your wife my women.
A total arrogant man he must be I thought.
Later I came to know when I started learning German, I learned it’s Meine frau meaning my women as it was a natural way to say it in German.
In each culture, there were different values yet each culture was about connection love and peace. Do you think you feel the world is one and we all are humans despite all the difference we have?



Gratitude Mantra 4:

“Gratitude Towards Acceptance”

It is good as it is.
If it’s good I can enjoy it.
If it’s challenging, I can learn from it.
Acceptance of who I am, helps you let go of a lot of struggles.
People’s opinions only affect you if you believe in them and you are unaware of yourself.
Acceptance of the unique nature of my loved ones, helped me see who they were and how they were gifted, how I could communicate with them in the language they understand. A lot of conflicts were then gone Acceptance of how some people are around me constantly triggered me and even I can’t help them if they know and it’s alright if they don’t want to change helped me become more compassionate.
A recent story is when I went to enjoy a coffee near my house and as I finished it, the owner who looked terribly irritated about something, came to me and told me in an irritating way - Did u park the scooter there? It should not be parked there.
It was not the information but the way it was given. The old me would have never gone back to the coffee shop and just argue saying it’s not written anywhere, where to park. Now as I have acceptance- I smiled towards her and said let me know the right place to park. She still didn’t get relaxed. She was so triggered but it was not my problem, I can park the scooter in the right place and enjoy a coffee again.
I smiled at my own improvement as I left the coffee shop!
Acceptance that help comes to those who ask for a change and I can only help the ones who are willing to help themselves.
Acceptable brings more joy and pleasure today and always!
Can any kind of acceptance bring you more peace and happiness?
Then go for it, because with an attitude of acceptance you can accomplish a lot.



Gratitude Mantra 5:

“Gratitude Towards Abundance”

Where your energy is, there it shall flow!
Well, when you say statements like
I am enough
It is enough
We are enough
These words radiate abundance.
To enjoy I don’t need things, I need an attitude of being light and the attitude of being light only came when I said I have enough.
I am enough and at this stage, this is my very best to know that I have done enough.
For example, think about what you don’t have or what you are lacking then you can think of all the other moments when you were repulsed and so all the energy goes in that direction.
So, I am grateful that I enjoy abundance in my life. Thank you, God, for everything and for this beautiful journey of life.
I am learning
I am growing and helping others grow as well.
Now as I always say any word might have a totally different meaning for me and a totally different meaning for you. So shall this word Abundance.
Let no rules of society rules, people, culture make you feel you are not enough.
Through Ayurveda, you can come towards the understanding of who you are and the different situations of your life and this brings abundance!
From Abundance shall be the expansion naturally, just like the tree grows!



Gratitude Mantra 6:

“Gratitude Towards Learning”

By learning from what we are, experiencing positive and negative we can constantly release our past and then learn something.
I remember saying to my mom years before now the new version of Shivani is out with better speed and processing and she laughed at it. I also used words like I deleted this from my hardware after learning what I learned from it.
Many of the patients I saw learned more and kept all the old in and then came to me telling they cannot solve their problems in spite of their learning but the key is to unlearn the old.
Each time I acted inappropriately, I studied it and promised myself to learn new ways to deal with it. Judging myself for my mistakes didn’t help me in any way neither did criticizing.
Learning about my strengths and studying the method of why and how I failed in personal and professional targets helped me to declutter.
I learned NLP, Nutrition psychology all with the intention of helping people yet bringing all to my original work of developing the Ayurvedic system of consultation.
I keep learning new things, one by one and deeply so that I get the right learning from it. May I be a learner till the end days of my life and I am so grateful for this attitude to learning. Do you love to learn?
Are you paying attention to what your achievements and conflicts are teaching you?



Gratitude Mantra 7:

“Gratitude Towards Parents”

My parents have been married for over a decade and are in a completely good phase of their life, enjoying their years with each other.
My dad taught me to be independent and Mom how to be flexible and adaptable. They did their best! Dad taught me to cook, swim and play badminton. I thought everyone’s father does so, till I heard that’s not true. It’s amazing how we can take their love for granted. My dad is a fire type and so he can’t explain his emotions. One needs to watch his acts to feel his love.
Parents sacrifice a lot for their children and having gratitude towards it fills me up and allows me to give love to my children. Parents have their own basic nature, while my traveling, I saw so many parents who had problems expressing their love towards their kids.
It was just a matter of perception that originates all these conflicts and calming them definitely brings in more abundance and peace!
By being grateful for my childhood I open up to the deep lessons I learned and the love I received. No parent is perfect, no family is perfect but I am so grateful to have one which loves me, as we go through the path of this life.
What memories of your parents go you have?
What similarities do you see in between you and them?



Gratitude Mantra 8:

“Gratitude Towards Motherhood”

Motherhood is an interesting experience, most of the mothers including me feel guilty of things which could have been better, as we want to do our best for our children but the thing is when we think about the past, we could think things we could have done in a better way.
Take the journey of my daughter who adjusted to a lot to our traveling lifestyle and the fact that our work was in a state of expansion in 2007, compared to my son who got a complete stable house as I could sit back and relax when he was born.
Seeing this I felt It could have been different for my daughter until my husband intervened and showed me the benefits of the travels.
I was only focused on the limitations!
Each child comes with his or her Prakriti and it might not be similar to us but it is beautiful. See own goodness, be easy on yourself and the children learn automatically. If I don’t think I am good enough I am gonna radiate the same to my kids so it helps when you voice that guilt out and not play the record in your brain, especially as a mother.
Is this the XX gene always feeling guilty?
I sometimes wonder as I go through my consultations
Let’s all please be easy on our expectations and picture perfect and enjoy these beautiful flowers growing in our garden, the nourishment to which only comes when the soil, which is us is rich.
Did you ever feel guilty as a mother of not doing enough?



Gratitude Mantra 9:

“Gratitude Towards Partnership”

When we can share the load with someone, a lot of things become lighter! Staying in a relationship for 20 years I learned a lot about communication, patience and not giving up on each other.
We both share our love for our beautiful science and always worked hard so that the people could have great and the right experience of Ayurveda.
I could tell you tons on this gratitude but just one phrase “Thank You” for this beautiful exchange is going to be the first and the last. I am happy that my kids have a father on whom they can count lifelong. I have gratitude that I found him on this planet and for all our travels and adventures!
Communication is the key in a partnership like I voiced my word you can too. How about you say what you feel about your partner today and thank him/her for being there, sharing the load with you.



Gratitude Mantra 10:

“Gratitude Towards Ayurveda”

I am grateful to find Ayurveda as the purpose of my life and will live long serve it with my love and devotion. Each time I was cluttered with problems, thoughts conflict Ayurvedic knowledge helped me. Each time my health went down Ayurvedic knowledge helped me get it back.
I learned to redesign, reshape my life, reshape my relationship with myself and others from Ayurveda. It made me understand the depth of living, yet giving me a lot of confidence to choose my life.
Each consultation is still exciting for me and I look forward to helping. Every student I train is a person who shall help other people to heal.
I am thankful to life, to all past 17 years of service and to all the people who are & were present with me.
Are you thankful and grateful to Ayurveda? Maybe you are not aware but even that little spice you add to your food might have gained its root from Ayurveda. Read about it and I highly recommend you will find your connection to the roots.
Maybe you have some different aspects in life to have gratitude for, as everyone has their own experiences but the point is to feel that we have enough and we are whole as we are.
Learning is a never-ending process but ensuring that gratitude flows in us for the rest of our life, we shall be more relaxed and, in my experience, a calmer mind find quicker solutions.

So here’s the thing -

Each of us is naturally programmed to have less gratitude. When you wake up first thing in the morning and remind your self what you are grateful for you, you will attract lightness and joy ! Being joyful is the best gift you can give yourself. So I encourage you to write this for yourself and master the art of having gratitude


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